Bring back the intimacy
Couples counselling is the process of helping intimacy in relationship to work again. Relationships in life can offer a great sense of fulfilment and connection. Opening up to intimacy in a relationship can be a profound source of angst in our lives. Only when we are able to respect ourselves and then from that position respect the other can we truly form lasting, loving relationships. Couples are not restricted just to mixed gender or same gender, they can be families or just two people who are having difficulties in how they are able to interact.
With support take time and listen to each other
People form associations with each other and form a trusting mutually beneficial relationship. Couples work is about offering witness to how relationship have changed, bringing awareness to problems and facilitating people in relationship to move back to a mutually beneficial, respectful association. In our busy daily lives our relationships are prone to being neglected; sometimes the relationship that has worked for so long becomes tired or even habitual. Couples work allows the individuals time with a therapist who can facilitate time for each of the partners to be heard and also to hear the others point of view. Once again, if not checked we can fall into unhelpful, neglectful patterns of behaviour. The therapy room offers a safe place for couples to talk about their problems and together work towards a solution, if there is mutual desire for the relationship to work.
Making the relationship work again
It must be said that once the therapist is able to facilitate an open and frank exploration for the couple, making the relationship work again is the responsibility of the couple. The therapist can only help facilitate, where appropriate educate and to a large extent hold what is being shared by the couple. The couple themselves have to do the hard work of making the relationship work again.
As the couple need to put into practice what they have mutually agreed to work on before returning to the therapy room, I normally see on a two weekly basis for 90 minute sessions.